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The Misogynist Within: Or the Obligatory is “Beyonce a Feminist” Post?

If you’re a black woman feminist or womanist, you have to write about Beyonce and her new album—it’s a rule.

So, here goes.

But first: I discovered an uncomfortable truth about myself this year…I suck as a feminist. Even though I graduated from a women’s college, taught at this women’s college, and have two co-authors who are women (the dynamic Jina Ortiz, with whom I am co-editing an anthology of women’s fiction, and the very gifted Tara Betts, with whom I am co-writing a book about the Dark Room Collective), I’ve internalized a lot of misogyny.

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I think internalized misogyny is one of those issues, like colorism or classism in minority communities, that people are reluctant to talk about. People often talk about how oppressed people develop “a victim mentality,” but I seriously doubt this “victim mentality” even exists. No one wants to be a victim. No one. We’ve all heard of Stockholm syndrome and how people adopt the attitudes and beliefs of their oppressors, but we don’t discuss how unfettered capitalism has damaged our minds and bodies by reducing us to what we can produce.  No one wants to admit what a number white supremacy has done on our psyches. We go through freaking psychological cartwheels to avoid talking about the ways systems of power and oppression have made us feel vulnerable, afraid, ashamed.

I say this because my personal goal in 2014 is to listen—really listen—to people, especially those who have traditionally had less of a voice. I have a writing colleague who loves to discuss women writers’ physical beauty, but when you ask him about the work these women are producing, he can’t say much. I’m guilty of this too—it’s hard not to notice the outward beauty of a Zadie Smith or a Chimamanda Adichie or a Patricia Engel—but we’ve also got to pay attention to what these women (and many, many more) are saying. We can learn a lot from those voices that have traditionally been silenced.

And so (finally!) going back to Beyonce, maybe that’s why so many folks love or hate her: in a world that still silences women, she uses her physicality/sensuality to force us to pay attention to her vision of the world, whatever we may think of that particular vision.

(And for those who would have preferred more “Beyonce” in this post, here are two well-written, provocative posts:

From http://realcoloredgirls.wordpress.com/2013/12/15/the-problem-with-beyhive-bottom-bitch-feminism/: “in reality this ‘power’ is merely vicarious and not a positional power in and of itself.”

From: http://dreamhampton.com/2013/12/18/yonce-on-her-knees/_2696090972.html: “The mindless adoration, the baseless evisceration, the love, the hate, speculation, the projection, the pedestal. They are the rent she pays for her place in the constellation”

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The Founder of BelovedYogi Studio, venue for this Saturday's Harlem Works Reading

The Founder of BelovedYogi Studio, venue for this Saturday’s Harlem Works Reading

Sheener Bailey. Taneeka Lanay Wilder. Peter Crow.

Three Incredible Performances on SAT., DEC 13, 6:30-8:30 p.m. at Beloved Yogi Studio in Harlem

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Sheener Bailey….

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Emotional Truth(s)

The last time I blogged, I promised I would post about nonfiction and all the wonderfully different nonfiction writers I’ve been reading (Marita Golden, Ted Conover, Emily Raboteau). In fact, I had a rather lengthy post planned, but I somehow lost it, and now I can’t find the draft. I think what I had wanted to say was that these writers all wrote about different subjects, but there was a single thread that linked them all: emotional truth…I wish I had the draft, but since I don’t, I’ll say what’s on my mind, right now:  it’s taken me until my mid-thirties to finally understand the ideas of “emotional truth” and “knowledge of self.” For the last couple of years, I’ve been going through some adult bullying, (some of which I admittedly brought on myself), and the pain I’ve experienced has been so exquisite, sharp, and ongoing that it’s shocked me into numbness.

Feeling Emotions like Mariah Carey

I think for those of us who’ve had relatively happy childhoods—parents who protected us, neighbors and friends who nurtured us—it’s easy to look at the world through a veil. It’s as though we always want to believe the best in people and when someone acts in a cruel or mean-spirited way and for no good reason, our minds just can’t process it. But we should. Most people are capable of doing incredible good, but also, in creating terrible pain (see Salem witch trials, slavery, the Holocaust). Now, when I look back at my old writing and my old self, I realize I was living in a dream because to ignore or dismiss the evil in the world is to not function in this world. It’s to be something less than alive…And I suppose all good writers know this. They aren’t afraid to explore the good and bad in everything, including the dark sides of themselves or the things they love most. In fact, if we go back to the aforementioned writers, one of my favorite passages of Raboteau’s Zion is when she explores the poet Thomas Glave‘s mixed feelings about Jamaica. Jamaica is, for Glave, “an ancestral and psychic home” but it’s also a place where “not all of my person is welcome.”

These kinds of mixed feelings—this recognition that the world is richer and stranger and far more complex than just good or bad—that’s what emotional truth is all about.

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Website Back Up & Craft of Nonfiction

I’ve been having some problems with technology—my website went down; my email may have been hacked—and though my last post may lead you to think otherwise, I still think technology is important. As is writing. (Then again, writing is just one form of technology)…I was having dinner tonight with some other writers and I mentioned how much I enjoyed Emily Raboteau’s Searching for Zion . I’ve been thinking a lot about the importance of individual sentences and how each element of a sentence can make or break a book of nonfiction. I’m still sorting out ideas, but I’ll post soon on Raboteau’s use of language, what we can learn from her carefully crafted sentences, and some of the other dazzling nonfiction I’ve read this year.

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Stickers, Tweets–How Do You Promote a Book?

Years ago, I was trying to help a friend promote his book, and because he wasn’t touring in my city, he’d given me some stickers to put up around town to generate publicity. I put up some of the stickers, but I didn’t think this promotion was working, so I arranged to give the stickers (and a copy of the book) away to students as part of an end-of-the year writing contest. But when I went to look,


I could not find the stickers.


And I looked everywhere! I was too embarrassed to ask my friend for more stickers, since I was responsible for them, so I tried something else: in some of my writing classes, I read short passages from the book (and designed worksheets based on the book). In the end, I think this effectively generated attention about the book because people could hear and understand the author’s message.

Hearing the words of the author gets people excited more than anything else. And in today’s world of tweets and blog posts, maybe we should consider attaching audio files to our posts. Because, in the end, even with all this technology, getting people to hear your words may be one of the best ways of promoting a book.

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The Psychology of Characters

A while ago, I was working on a story with a protagonist who was a little…off. The main character was a bully who had neither remorse nor empathy nor friends, and while such a character seems interesting (and terrifying!), the story didn’t work at all. The story was a failure because I didn’t realize then what I realize now: our society worships anti-heroes. When I watch an episode of The Sopranos now, I am astonished not only by James Gadolfini’s acting but also by how much the people around him feared and respected him… As someone who was bullied when I was younger (and is admittedly a people-pleaser even now), I didn’t realize how much my own narcissism came into play, that I was at least somewhat responsible for the teasing I experienced. I think socially awkward children are so desperate to be liked (a form of narcissism) that we massage our bullies’ egos and will do whatever is asked of us. We think that if we can just get the bullies to like us—if we can prove to them that we are likable individuals—then they will stop teasing us or spreading nasty rumors about us or invading our privacy or doing whatever it is they do to show that they have control over our lives. But capitulating only makes the bullying worse, as it adds to their control, and people like powerful people…

James Gandolfini of The Sopranos

James Gandolfini of The Sopranos

I think this is one of the most important lessons I’ve had to learn as a writer and as an individual: people seldom behave in the ways we expect them to. And, if I ever return to the story I was writing, I wouldn’t make my main character friendless; in fact, I’d work harder to show the mixture of fear and respect such a person engenders.

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Coming soon…Adventures in Boogieland

A.R. Bey has written a middle grade novel, Adventures in Boogieland, scheduled for publication this summer. It contains allusions to “James Brown, Count Basie, Duke Ellington, Billie Holiday, Louis Armstrong, Josephine Baker, Janelle Monae, Michael Jackson and Prince” and is described as “Willy Wonka, with a hint of Alice in Wonderland meets the Wiz.” When I was a child, there wasn’t a lot of speculative fiction/fantasy that featured children of color as protagonist, and so it’s especially cool that Bey’s written this book.

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The Wiz

Needless to say, I’m really looking forward to this one!

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“Already Birthed?”

Years ago, novelist Edwidge Danticat generously gave a writing workshop and talk to students at Spelman College. We had been reading Danticat’s Krik? Krak! in Professor Opal Moore’s creative writing workshop, and when I saw Edwidge I was effusive with praise: “yourwritingeverywordissoperfecteachimagejustexactlyso.”
When I finally stopped to take a breath, Edwidge laughed and said, “Do you think it comes out ‘already birthed’?”

The writer, Edwidge Danticat

The writer, Edwidge Danticat

These days, as I’m getting older and spending more time thinking about marriage and motherhood and creativity and community, I find myself mulling over Edwidge’s words…The idea that writing truly is a laborious process, and that whenever you write, you’re creating a new and original entity, is a reminder to be gentle to ourselves, to give ourselves time to allow our creations to be born, take shape, and ultimately, enter the world.

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Coming soon…A Harlem Coworking Space/Here Now…Talk Fuzion

When work was being done on our building and we lost our Internet a few months back, I realized that one cannot live–nor write–by Starbucks alone…I’m now in the process of developing a coworking space for writers, small business owners, tech folks, and consultants because a space like that doesn’t exist this far uptown (though Marcus Mayo hopes to bring one to Harlem’s popular 125th street). If you need a quiet space to write or work, in a relaxed environment in Hamilton Heights, please email me at harlemcoworkers@gmail.com. We’re accepting applications now, with plans to open in early summer…

Coworking Space

And, finally, while we’re on the subject of writers building things to help other writers, please check out sci-fi writer Autumn Simmons. She’s the host of Talk Fuzion, where she celebrates indy authors. This month, I’m a guest on one of her episodes.

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